Month: June 2015

think positive

Positive Thinking

Experiencing Life in a more Positive Way

Positive Thinking

therapist for positive thinkingHow positive thinking affect our everyday lives?  People tend to experience life in a subjective manner interpreting events and incidents according to our own physical, psychological and emotional filter. We interpret events using our experiences, psychological and biological make-up as we make them fit into our own view of the world. Many of us have a more positive outlook in life while others have a more negative one. That is, we tend to have more thoughts that are positive or negative about the world around us. Being a negative or positive thinker leads individuals to participate in their lives in a different manner leading to certain ramifications in their personal and work life and affecting their interactions with others.

People who have more of a negative thinking pattern may feel that they are being more realistic and seeing life as it really is and that looking at things in a more positive way will lead to unrealistic expectations and disappointment. It may be that seeing things in a more negative manner does provide some way of protecting a person from harmful situations and could prove useful at times. However, a continued negative thinking pattern may do more harm than good if it becomes a chronic way of looking at things. Negative thinking may lead to mental health problems, such as depression, anxiety and self-esteem issues to name a few. In addition, there are also medical problems related to negative thinking, from immune system problems to severe medical conditions. Therefore, it appears that it would be beneficial for people to learn how to switch negative thinking around and indulge in positive thinking to improve their overall health.

Positive Thinking Benefits

positive thinkingAs more research is done in the area of positive thinking more and more reasons to espouse this way of thinking become apparent. Some of the benefits include:

* Better mental health
*Experiencing joy more consistently
* Stronger immune system
* A sense of well-being and improved health
* Reduced risk of heart problems
* Higher self-esteem
* Better coping skills in facing stressful situations


To be able to change negative to positive thinking one must first recognize that he or she is engaging in a negative thinking pattern consistently. If one’s thoughts are mostly critical to self and others, this is a red flag that a change in thinking could be helpful.

Steps that are helpful in changing negative to positive thinking may include:

  • Putting a positive spin on internal and external conversation. Be nice to yourself and others in your thoughts and when talking to others.
  • List at least three things each day that make you feel grateful.
  • Surround yourself with supportive and positive people and avoid harmful relationships.
  • Take responsibility for things you do and say.
  • Take time to do things that are relaxing and fun to you.
  • Practice forgiveness of yourself and others.

If you feel that there are psychological roadblocks on the path to becoming a more positive thinker, contact a therapist to help you in clearing obstacles to a more positive lifestyle.  Positive thinking can lead to a happier life.

managing stress at work

Managing Stress


manage stressIn this article you will find ways of managing stress. It is considered that stress occurs as a result of an imbalance between the demands of the environment and the internal and external resources available to a person. In many instances stress leads to a process of adaptation in the individual.

A moderate stress level is normal and inherent to life itself. People have adapted and changed their lifestyles throughout history due to stressful situations and many of these changes that were stressful at the time led us to produce positive results that have benefited us.

However, stress does have a negative impact on us often. Some stressful events we encounter in our personal lives may include: divorce; disease; death of a loved one; economic problems, discrimination, problems with our partner, problems with our children. These are only a few experiences leading to stress in one’s personal life. When a person experiences chronic stress they are more likely to have problems with their immune system, with increased risk of heart problems, high blood pressure, diabetes, asthma, ulcers, colitis and cancer. In addition, stress is often associated with psychological disorders such as anxiety and depression. Managing stress is key to both your physical and psychological health.

work life balanceAt times individuals may also experience stress at work. Stressful situations that are work related may include: fatigue, excessive number of working hours, changes in the workplace, lack of participation in decision-making, lack of support from management, lack of job security; conflicting demands and lack of clarity of the duties of the position; poor management of organizational changes; ineffective communication, psychological and sexual harassment, and violence by third parties to name a few. Managing stress is important to prevent negative effects of stress at work. Left untreated, stress may result in poor overall performance, increased absenteeism, and higher rates of accidents and injuries. It can also contribute to increased rates of early retirement.

Important Steps For Managing Stress

managing stress strategies

There are many ways to manage stress. Try some to find out which ones work best for you.

  • Accept that you may not be able to change certain things, such as rush hour traffic.
  • Avoid stressful situations. Whenever you possibly can, move away from the source of stress.
  • Physical activity every day is the best and easiest way to deal with stress.
  • Change your perspective. Work on replacing negative thoughts with more positive thoughts.
  • Do something you enjoy. It can be as simple as reading a good book, listen to music, watch your favorite movie or out to dinner with a friend.
  • Learn new ways to relax. Practicing relaxation techniques.
  • Connect with your loved ones.
  • Get enough sleep.
  • Eat a healthy diet.

To help you manage work-related stress.

  • Take breaks during the day. A few minutes to practice a relaxation exercise may be very helpful.
    • Set reasonable expectations for yourself and others.
    • Talk to your supervisor about your job description. Your responsibilities and performance criteria may not accurately reflect what you are doing.

Finally, working with a qualified therapist can help you determine the specific causes of your stress, and develop appropriate strategies for managing stress.

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