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How To Visualize Success

Want to know how to visualize success?

As more information is presented to us through scientific studies about the importance of the mind-body connection, we realize the influence that each side has on the other. Just as we find through research, and our own experience, that being physically active and exercising affects the chemical balance in our brain, which often leads to a better mental health status, we have also seen that our mind can have an influence on our physical health.

Most of us have experienced incidents where negative, anxious or depressive thoughts have led us to feel physically ill. At times, all we have to do is remember those incidents to have a negative reaction from our body. On the other hand, we only have to think of a pleasant memory or experience and some of those positive feelings are brought into our awareness.

Having this information helps us in shaping the life we want for ourselves. Everyone has their own ideas of what leads to happiness and success. So how does knowing about the mind-body connection lead us to the life we want? There are many paths to success and they tend to include hard work, common sense, intelligence, persistence and drive to name a few.

Creative Visualization

One more factor that is becoming more widespread as individuals seek assistance in working towards their goals is Visualization. Visualization is a technique used where a person invokes a positive mental image to focus on in preparation for a particular action or performance. Visualization is a tool that can assists on the path to success in many areas of a person’s life. There are many examples given by individuals from all walks of life where they implemented visualization as a way of reaching their goals.

Several well-known people, from famous chess players and athletes to not so well-known individuals, have used visualization and went on to improve their performance. They mentioned that after visualizing their actions, they felt as if they had actually practiced before going through the motions.  This idea is expressed well in Remez Sasson’s article Creative Visualization.

Visualization has gone from being a tool for areas such as sports and games to expanding to our personal and professional lives bringing with it the possibility of mental practice before the actions. We can now have mental images or representations to perfect the outcome leading us to move through the actions with more confidence and self-assurance. Yet, visualization can be used for much more. It can help us see the life and goals we want to reach and show us how to get there. It is important to focus on the goals and see ourselves being successful to create a clearer picture of where we want to go. It is a very powerful tool that when added to the more traditional tools in reaching success will create a better outcome for us.

If you want help learning to visualize your goals, give Maria Rodriguez-Fischer a call at 919-401-8261.

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Positive Thinking

Experiencing Life in a more Positive Way

Positive Thinking

therapist for positive thinkingHow positive thinking affect our everyday lives?  People tend to experience life in a subjective manner interpreting events and incidents according to our own physical, psychological and emotional filter. We interpret events using our experiences, psychological and biological make-up as we make them fit into our own view of the world. Many of us have a more positive outlook in life while others have a more negative one. That is, we tend to have more thoughts that are positive or negative about the world around us. Being a negative or positive thinker leads individuals to participate in their lives in a different manner leading to certain ramifications in their personal and work life and affecting their interactions with others.

People who have more of a negative thinking pattern may feel that they are being more realistic and seeing life as it really is and that looking at things in a more positive way will lead to unrealistic expectations and disappointment. It may be that seeing things in a more negative manner does provide some way of protecting a person from harmful situations and could prove useful at times. However, a continued negative thinking pattern may do more harm than good if it becomes a chronic way of looking at things. Negative thinking may lead to mental health problems, such as depression, anxiety and self-esteem issues to name a few. In addition, there are also medical problems related to negative thinking, from immune system problems to severe medical conditions. Therefore, it appears that it would be beneficial for people to learn how to switch negative thinking around and indulge in positive thinking to improve their overall health.

Positive Thinking Benefits

positive thinkingAs more research is done in the area of positive thinking more and more reasons to espouse this way of thinking become apparent. Some of the benefits include:

* Better mental health
*Experiencing joy more consistently
* Stronger immune system
* A sense of well-being and improved health
* Reduced risk of heart problems
* Higher self-esteem
* Better coping skills in facing stressful situations


To be able to change negative to positive thinking one must first recognize that he or she is engaging in a negative thinking pattern consistently. If one’s thoughts are mostly critical to self and others, this is a red flag that a change in thinking could be helpful.

Steps that are helpful in changing negative to positive thinking may include:

  • Putting a positive spin on internal and external conversation. Be nice to yourself and others in your thoughts and when talking to others.
  • List at least three things each day that make you feel grateful.
  • Surround yourself with supportive and positive people and avoid harmful relationships.
  • Take responsibility for things you do and say.
  • Take time to do things that are relaxing and fun to you.
  • Practice forgiveness of yourself and others.

If you feel that there are psychological roadblocks on the path to becoming a more positive thinker, contact a therapist to help you in clearing obstacles to a more positive lifestyle.  Positive thinking can lead to a happier life.

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